Starting Over

Starting over ... Those words are difficult to swallow, they are scary. They can make your blood run cold, and your heart beat faster. As scary as those words can be, there often comes a time in life when they are necessary. Sometimes life simply takes you in a direction where starting over is maybe the only choice, maybe it's just the right choice.

It's a struggle to make the decision to start over. We become comfortable in our lives, complacent even. Change in and of itself can be terrifying. Maybe you're in a career that you have come to find tedious and tiring, but you don't want to leave because at the same time, it's comfortable. It's what you know. Maybe you are in a relationship that no longer makes you happy, and you are afraid to walk away because starting over is scary.

Whatever the reason behind life pushing you in the direction of starting over, it can be very necessary. Sometimes in life starting over is how you find yourself. It's how you find the happiness you've been searching for. Sometimes starting over is exactly the jump start you need to live the life you are meant to live.

Not everyone in your life will understand your need and desire to start over. Not everyone will support your decision. That's okay. They don't have to agree with it or support it. It's your life. I'll repeat that, it's your life. The only opinion that matters is yours. You know yourself better than anyone else. If starting over is what you know in your heart is the right thing to do, then do it.

We each only have one life to live. It's too short to stay unhappy when you can change it. Sometimes you have to be a little bit selfish and do what is best for you. In life your happiness is just as, if not more, important that the happiness of those around you. I know, some of you may be taken aback by what I just said. But, the reality is, it's true.

If you aren't happy, truly happy, how can you expect to make others happy?

You have to decide what is best for you and your happiness, and say fuck it to the rest. There's nothing wrong with that. It doesn't make you a bad person. It doesn't mean you are uncaring. It just means that you are putting you and your needs first. Again, there's nothing wrong with that. It's okay to put yourself first. It's okay to put your needs first. It's okay to do what you need to do to be happy.

It's okay to make the choice to start over. It's okay to admit that starting over is what you need to do. It's scary as hell, but that's okay too. Embrace the scary, embrace the change, embrace your happiness. Take that step toward your new future and your new life.